Sex Is Neither Positive nor Negative
The awesome force of sexuality and its power to create confusion in the human
mind is
enormous. Indeed, the intensity of desire that the force of sexuality
arouses within the human mind and body almost always creates a sense of insecurity
within the individual. The presence of insecurity in any form is often frightening.
Many experience a loss of equilibrium in the face of overwhelming desire, and
the tremendous insecurity experienced at times like these causes the individual
to want to find a way to escape.
There
are fundamentally two positions taken in relationship to the awesome force of
sexuality. One is that sex is positive—Good, Healthy and Natural. The other
is that sex is negative—Bad, Dirty and Evil. Both of these positions represent
a form of escape from the insecurity that the overwhelming power of sexual desire
arouses within the individual. The form of escape that I'm referring to represents
a
fixed position. And it is this fixed position that enables the individual
to avoid the inevitable confrontation with their humanity that the arousal of
the sexual force always demands.
The
sexual force in and of itself is neither positive nor negative. But the
tremendous insecurity that its presence generates within the individual and
the desire to escape from that insecurity cause almost all to perceive what
is inherently a
neutral force as either positive or negative. The sexual
force is the expression of the impersonal power of creation itself. The impersonal
power of creation cares not for the individual. Its relationship to the individual
is always neutral and could only be neutral, as the sexual force is blind, creative
energy that has no consciousness and no individuality. The individual's desire
to escape from its overwhelming intensity alone is what creates the illusion
of polarity where none actually exists.
Sex Is Neutral
Is it possible for a human being to have a positive sexual experience and still
retain the ability to directly perceive the inherent neutrality of the sexual
force? Is it possible for a human being to have a negative sexual experience
and still retain the ability to directly perceive the inherent neutrality of
the sexual force? Only if the individual is able to sustain a relationship with
the sexual force that consistently reveals its true nature as inherently neutral
and
impersonal will he or she be able to avoid the paralyzing confusion
and almost inevitable suffering that result from any lack of clarity in this
area.
The price
that has to be paid in order to achieve the degree of clarity necessary to survive
the storms of confusion that accompany the presence of overwhelming desire is
very high. That price is the willingness to bear the experience of intense insecurity
without succumbing to the temptation to see the sexual force as other than it
actually is.
It is
rare when a human being is able to experience the tremendous power of the sexual
force rising up within them without instantly taking emotional and psychological
refuge in one polarity or the other. For example, the conclusion that the true
nature of the sexual force is
always positive—Good, Healthy and Natural—automatically
relieves the individual of the enormous burden that the presence of the sexual
force imposes on the personality. In the same way the opposite conclusion, that
the true nature of the sexual force is
always negative—Bad, Dirty and
Evil—
equally allows the individual to avoid having to come to terms with
the true nature of the power of the creative energy in every moment. This is
very important. Why? Because if our relationship with that most powerful of
instincts is ever going to be able to demonstrate the fearless integrity that
the full fruition of our humanity demands, then it is absolutely essential that
one be able to see the true nature of the sexual force for what it actually
is.
The Sexual Experience Is Multidimensional
It is essential to be able to consistently perceive the true or inherently neutral
nature of the sexual force in order to see it clearly. But, even more importantly,
viewing the sexual force from either the positive or the negative pole alone
does not and cannot ever fully embrace the
multidimensional nature of
the human experience of sexual feelings, i.e., physical, psychological, emotional
and even spiritual. The human experience of the sexual instinct is never static,
but is ever changing. And because the human experience of sexuality
is
multidimensional and ever changing—unless that fact is addressed directly, the
individual's perspective in relationship to the sexual experience will never
be able to accurately embrace every aspect of their own very human experience.